Making your own wedding dress

There were lots of good reasons for me to make my own wedding dress. I guess the main one was “I’ll be mad/sad if I don’t at least try” which sounds stupid but sums it all up. Now I’m mad/sad that I don’t have any photos where I’m not holding my bouquet like a shield. The bodice actually did sit flat, I didn’t need to disguise it. Contrary to the next picture.

This was the first garment I’d sewed in about four years, I think. Looking back I’m surprised that I didn’t actually stop to think about that, but I guess that’s actually me down to a tee. The flip side was, if it worked out then I’d have exactly the dress I wanted, without spending a fortune.

How to choose your pattern:

Do: look past the colours they use, and outside of the ‘events’ and ‘bridal wear’ sections in the pattern books

Burda 7569 looked pretty awful on the pattern envelope (sorry, Burda people) but totally worked with a petticoat. This was in the normal dresses section. Because we all wear satin, every day.

Do: be prepared to tweak it

I changed the neckline slightly and also chopped miles off the hemline. I’m 5’6” and this would have hit three-quarters of the way down my calves at literally the most unflattering possible point. I would have looked like an ambulatory iceberg. And obviously I ditched the ribbon doo-dad.

Do: look at all the pattern manufacturers

I’ve never actually made up any Burda patterns before, I think I was scarred by memories of Home Economics and my teacher battering on about how they didn’t have seam allowance included and how that made them almost impossible. Firstly, that’s crap and now they do have all allowances included. Plus (and I really liked this) they number corresponding joins and points accordingly on different pattern pieces ie the tailor’s tack mark on the bodice and the mark on the skirt to which it should be aligned are both called 4, or whatever. Join 1 to 1, 2 to 2 etc. That’s really simple, and it’s helpful*.

Don’t: do a cut and shut

Deciding ‘that Vogue pattern neckline is perfect, now I just need to slap it on the fishtail from that Simplicity evening dress’ is probably going to be more trouble than it’s worth. If you’re accomplished enough to do that then you could probably draft your own pattern from scratch. If not, stay well away.

Don’t: pick an incompatible pattern and fabric

If you see yourself in a long column dress, then a velvet or heavy satin could just pull the whole thing down and show every curve of your silhouette (which might be fabulously flattering, otherwise bring on the Spanx). Or a full fairytale cloud skirt may require lots of light tulle for the shape and then be unable to support that beaded lace overskirt you’ve seen in your dreams. If the pattern is a deal-breaker, commit to it and take it with you when fabric shopping. Discuss your options with the assistant at the fabric shop (always knowledgeable, often makers themselves). Don’t be afraid to browse at specialist shops and ask questions, even if you don’t end purchasing there.

How to choose your fabric:

In the end, I went for a synthetic satin from John Lewis and it worked out about £65 for everything including the pattern, threads and zip (I think the red bodice lining may have come later and been another £10).

Why not real satin? Well, I wanted splurge on having someone come to do my hair and make up on the day instead (no-brainer in my case and it was definitely the best decision for me). Also, I felt that this fabric draped really well and I really like the colour. Being very very honest, how often am I going to wear my wedding dress again? My options are to dye it (possibly risky with synthetic fabric), embellish it or consign it to the dressing-up box if this baby is a daughter. For the sake of £65, I’m fine with that.

Do: align your budget with your ability

When you are making your own dress, in case things don’t go entirely smoothly, or if you’re like me (bit rusty at sewing, fluctuating size, kind of making it up as I went along) you need to be relatively confident when playing with hundreds of pounds-worth of fabric. So maybe not the silk at £120 a metre (“Yes, you’ll need five metres” “Gulp”).

That’s not to say that if I’d had more cash to play with I would necessarily have indulged in different fabrics or lace. I nearly bought some amazing lace when fabric shopping but it would have meant a different shape of dress entirely and in the end, I’m glad I found my pattern first and not the other way around. It also would have been in excess of £200 just for the lace, with the whole fabric budget about £400, and once you get into that territory I could have found a nice off-the-peg dress.

Do: pick a colour that suits you, whether it’s strictly traditional or not

Was so tempted to have a red dress. (Registry office wedding so no startling the vicar issues). In the end I went with what is optimistically called Oyster, and incorporated red into the details and accessories which was a good compromise. Hint: white is really really hard to wear. My bodice was lined in red, which nobody really saw but me but I was happy with it.

Do: buy more material than the pattern calls for

Add at least an extra half metre to the pattern allowances. That should allow for last minute screw-ups and especially tweaks to very tailored sections – in case you need to cut the back bodice panels again because you forgot to add the seam allowances to your alterations, like (cough) someone I know… you’ll probably be able to use the surplus for accessories etc.

If you don’t buy extra, be aware that you have little or no margin for error so be extra paranoid about ‘measure twice, cut once’; and that you’re unlikely to be able to buy the same fabric again. Unlike yarn, it doesn’t have colour shades and dye lots so the only way to ensure it will match exactly is to get it all from the same bolt at the same time.

Do: Have the material cleaned before you start

Whether by a specialist dry-cleaners for expensive stuff, or by chucking it in your washing machine if it allows, do it once to get any production residues out and minimize shrinkage during future cleaning.

When you’re making it:

Picture 1: relatively unchanged front

Picture 2: many sizes’ difference compared to the original back

Do: make a muslin

I also spent about £16 on a couple of metres of double-width sheeting and for the first time ever, cut a muslin. Because I’m way above the standard C cup to which most patterns are cut, I ended up with a very curious garment at this stage. This was also before I really got on the wedding diet in earnest. I cut the biggest size on the pattern.

To accommodate my chest, I ended up keeping that size 20 front to the dress.  The back worked out about a size 8 but somehow the underarms seams were exactly under my armpits which I still can’t quite figure out. Fortunately my pattern had a long zip all the way down the rear to below my hipline. I simply waited til I was near the end of the diet, pulled in the back to where it needed to be and did all the final alterations along the zip as if it was just a centre-back seam. The petticoat filled out the skirt shape too.

Once I was happy with the fit, had drawn all over it with Sharpies and knew it was almost right, I transferred the changes to the paper pattern and cut the actual fabric. [the red line in the photo above is where I needed to alter the fabric to for it to fit me]

Do: remember that commercial pattern sizing is not the same as clothes sizing

Just because you’re generally a size 12 in shops, don’t just cut out a size 12 from the pattern and go for it. Get a friend to measure you accurately and work out which pattern size your hips, waist, bust etc correspond to. Remember that back length can also be important depending on the pattern (and whether you’re short waisted or have a long torso!)

Do: factor in diets, underwear and seam allowances

I lost quite a bit of weight in relevant places hence needing to pull and tug the dress into a quite radically different size by the end. So I waited as long as I could (about 2-3 weeks before the wedding) before touching the actual fabric for the dress.

I ended up changing the underwear I was going to wear after that, which is what you’re *not* supposed to do, but the new bra was actually much more flattering. But don’t do that, get your underwear ready for when you’re going to cut your fabric.

If you do make alterations, when you pin the muslin exactly to you, make sure you add on a seam allowance to the actual fabric before you cut it. I forgot on the back bodice panels and had to recut them but luckily had the spare fabric to do it. Ironically I then lost weight and realised the ‘mistake’ pieces would have been perfect.

I opted to buy a petticoat rather than make one myself. Chosen from a website, it was a custom job and was about 75% right. The colour was perfect. But…

It was also both heavier than I expected which meant that it dragged down further than intended in a lot of photos, and scratchier. The woman I bought it from rhapsodised about how soft the fabric she used was – actually the tulle was attached to a band of cheap acetate lining on the top which had the potential to be a bit sweaty. She also used the most rubbish elastic in the waistband, thin knicker elastic that wasn’t really up to holding that weight of fabric and I did have terrors about it all ending up around my ankles at some point. I could have bought one from a local burlesque shop that would probably have been just as suitable and substantially less expensive.

It was longer than I expected and by the time it arrived, I was too braindead to face raising the waistband and replacing the elastic, especially given that I finished hemming the dress at 1am on the Friday morning with the wedding on Saturday. In hindsight, I wish I had.

Do: get help with the hem

I am pretty sure it was a bit wonky. It’s not something you can do yourself – measuring a consistent length from the bodice is fine if you’re a perfectly aligned human. I am certainly not.

In fact, enlist help with the whole thing. Not to necessarily hold your hand all the way through, but a friend who’ll help with measuring and marking alterations, as well as telling you not to panic, you’ll look great on the day, is invaluable.

Don’t: just use the muslin for sizing

Treat it as a practice run. When I got to the making up stage, I had a few questions about the pattern that would have been solved had I actually sewn the muslin fully rather than just using it for sizing and roughly seamed it.

Don’t: bother sewing the zip into the muslin.

You’ll only have to unpick it and life’s a bit short, frankly. You can do just as good a job by tacking it, then pulling it with pins and a helpful volunteer.

Don’t: use a muslin fabric that’s a different weight to your dress fabric

It can be a cheaper version but should be the same weight or you won’t be able to judge the drape and fall (if you have a local market, they can be great sources for fabric at £1-2 per metre).

Moral of the story?

It’s time consuming and if you’ve got a huge wedding to plan, it’s a pretty big responsibility to take on. Would I dressmake again, for a big occasion?

Hell, yes!

*My other favourite pet peeve? Why the hell don’t pattern manufacturers (particularly for multi-size patterns) mark somewhere on sheet where you can see it before you unfold the whole damn thing which pieces are on the particular sheet? It could be in the edge margin: “This sheet pieces 1, 3, 4 (8-12), 7 (10-14)” or whatever. Because we all know that once they’re unfolded, that tissue paper SWELLS like a pregnant woman’s ankles and is never going back in the envelope in the same way again.

Making a wedding

When we planned our wedding earlier last year, I decided that if I didn’t at least try to craft some of the props and elements I’d be disappointed. It all worked out quite well although my husband did wonder exactly when I would finish the bunting and move on to the wedding dress. Especially when we got to a fortnight before the wedding and I was still surrounded by piles of triangular flags. If you’re thinking of doing something similar, here’s what I learned.

1. Know your budget

I initially spent about £60 on fabric which included some Liberty lawn but realised with some shock one Saturday afternoon that it was nowhere near enough. I spluttered that I was “just popping out” splurged another £100 at Beyond Fabrics, mostly on retro and vintage prints. That made about 100m metres of bunting, with a small amount of fabric to spare. It was probably cheaper than buying bunting before you factor in the time for cutting, ironing, sewing, assembling. Still, I’m glad I did it. It’s already been used for another wedding and is booked in for a couple more – it will be shared, used and treasured.

2. Save time where you can

I had enough fabric left over from my dress to make a matching bag, but then thought the shape turned out a little odd (you’d think I’d plan more, but, um, no). So I was faced with carrying something that I didn’t really like or spending more time embellishing it. Then I spotted a belt in H&M which had a huge red silk ribbon bow on it. Quick snip of the shears and some strong as nails glue, and I had the perfect accessory. 

3.  Enlist help

My brilliant friend Abi came shopping with me, and we trawled Soho for beautiful fabrics and looked at patterns. I chose Burda 7569 even though it didn’t look that promising from the envelope. Abi came over to help me do my measurements, to fit the muslin and then to stop me from eating my fists when I had to fit the concealed zip.  Poor husband did try to help but understandably, hadn’t a clue what was going on. Without Abi I would have had to resort to a lot of safety pins. And screaming.

My brother and sister in law also decided to take it upon themselves to make us favours. They were adorable and I wouldn’t have had time or the crafty mojo to make anything as pretty as they did. Family FTW.

4. Communicate

Because I was also on a diet ahead of the big day, I knew that I’d need to finish the wedding dress fittings reasonably near the actual day. This happened to coincide with us selling our flat and moving into a friend’s for a fortnight. I had always planned to pack the sewing machine to take, and had ‘booked’ Abi to help – I just forgot to explain the plan to husband. To his credit, he didn’t panic. Not visibly. It would have helped his blood pressure to know that I actually was working to a schedule, and also had a contingency dress if it all gone pear-shaped. Oops. 

5. Make it personal

We thought that many of our friends would find it funny if we hashtagged our wedding, so this was our cake topper. It was rather larger than I expected (shown with cat for scale) so I sent a tracing of it to our baker extraordinaire friend with the message “I think we’re going to need a bigger cake”. Seriously, for the laughter it caused, and the fact it meant it was much easier to find all the tweeted photos afterwards, this was one of the best £5 I spent.

Our day all went to plan in the end, or if it didn’t we either didn’t know or didn’t care, but DIY Weddings are not for the faint hearted. I wasn’t working full time so it made sense to do as much as we could and it helped with the budget too. Next up – making your own wedding dress…